Relationship has a divine design in every one of our lives and it is vitally important for each one of us to grasp the importance they play. Therefore, we should aim to fight for strong relationships in our lives. Relationships where we can truly trust our lives with other individuals. Relationships that are built on God’s love. The question we should often ask ourselves is, ‘what are we doing to save and build our current relationships?’
Relationship has a divine design in every one of our lives and it is vitally important for each one of us to grasp the importance they play. Therefore, we should aim to fight for strong relationships in our lives. Relationships where we can truly trust our lives with other individuals. Relationships that are built on God’s love. The question we should often ask ourselves is, ‘what are we doing to save and build our current relationships?’
Our first divine relationship is with God, our Father:
Matthew 3:13-17 shows one of the most important examples of the divine design of relationships.
Then Jesus came from Galilee to John at the Jordan to be baptized by him. And John tried to prevent Him, saying, “I need to be baptized by You, and are You coming to me?” But Jesus answered and said to him, “Permit it to be so now, for thus it is fitting for us to fulfill all righteousness.” Then he allowed Him. When He had been baptized, Jesus came up immediately from the water; and behold, the heavens were opened to Him, and He saw the Spirit of God descending like a dove and alighting upon Him. And suddenly a voice came from heaven, saying, “This is My beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased.”
Here we see an example of the Father, Son, and Holy Ghost working in absolute unity, offering an opportunity for mankind to restore a relationship with them. We don’t just get saved; God calls us into relationship with Him. It is a huge privilege to know Jesus as our Lord and Saviour.
Divine relationship forms the catalyst of our destiny. Destiny is not just what we become in our place of employment and what we have achieved, but it is who we are in Christ Jesus i.e. the unfolding of our entire life. Jesus fulfilled God’s destiny for His life in three years. When we look at John the Baptist’s destiny, he was brought into this earth for one purpose – to proclaim the coming of Christ. He didn’t have a big house like David the king. He lived in a cave in the bush, but he still walked out his destiny. However when we are walking in a divine relationship, let’s be careful of offense that will try to come and cause us to start questioning this relationship.
Our Father models Himself to us as a:
a) Giver
The first characteristic our Father displays in His relationship with us is that He is a giver i.e. He calls us out of darkness – in other words, He begins the process of our salvation. God is love and desperately wants to see us saved, so let us never take our salvation for granted.
b) Nourisher
God is a nourisher to us. He is continually nourishing us with His tender kindness. And when we allow God to nourish us, by making ourselves vulnerable to receive His love and kindness, we make ourselves vulnerable with people. If we cannot be vulnerable with people we will live a life of isolation and loneliness.
c)Protector
God is also our protector of our destiny.
We should model ourselves to others as:
a) Being a giver
The attributes that God brings into relationship with us as giver, nourisher and protector of our destiny is a model for our development in relationship with one another. In order for us to develop in our own relationships with others we need to become givers. In other words, let us give of ourselves and become vulnerable with each other. This does not necessarily mean giving materially but being able to give of ourselves. Let’s undergird people whether they acknowledge us or not. The greatest act of love that we can demonstrate to one another is to pray for one another (especially those that have caused us the biggest trouble).
b) Be a nourisher
Let’s nourish others, by encouraging them – even when they mess up forty times in a week. When we get to Heaven, God is going to allow the fire of truth to determine how we have really lived out our lives and treated people. It is so important how we love each other. The key is that we should endeavour to pursue God in our every relationship and allow Him to control our heart and our emotions.
Above all ... Walk in love
If we were to do an inventory on our lives, many of us would be able to pin point the many wrongs that have been done to us, but this is not an excuse for not walking in God’s love. In fact, faith cannot operate when we hold grudges. Even though these grudges may seem legitimate in the natural, in God’s eyes they are not acceptable. We can dance and celebrate in church on a Sunday morning, but are we allowing God to really build relationships that will last forever. In order to truly see the power of God in our lives, we have to allow God to clean us up – so that we are not walking with hearts that are full of judgment.
Matthew 7:1-6
“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you. And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. “Do not give what is holy to the dogs; nor cast your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you in pieces.”
The very person that we may be offended with, may be the very person that God will bring to work with us for the rest of our life. I wish that people would change overnight, but normally there are many years of hurt, disappointment and discouragement but God is a God of great patience. And we need to learn to be of great patience with one another.
If relationships just happened then we would not have strife in the world. However, we have a devil in this earth that is the divider of the brethren. And division stops the power of God manifesting in our lives.
God is interested in people. It is important to understand that God has ordered relationships in our lives. He does not want us hanging around people that will pull us down. There are people that are out the will of God that try and pull people that are in the will of God, out of His will. They learnt this from the devil himself, who did this in the Garden of Eden. The very first thing that the devil did was to destroy Adam and Eve’s relationship with the Father. He did this by sowing strife in their hearts towards God. The devil is an isolationist – he starts to pull people away slowly but surely from their divine relationships.
The enemy promotes isolation through division by causing mistrust.
Take a look at what is happening in your life of late – how are the blessings going, are we doing things in our walk with God just to do them or are we doing them out of a heart of love? God never divides. So many people are running around with visions in their hearts, but they do not materialize, because the devil will try to isolate them. Division causes isolation and loneliness. The devil loves loners – he destroys their destiny, because no loner will go where God wants them to go. Let’s take our stand in the centre of love and run the devil out of our lives!